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Intimate Relationships

Closeness is a part of every relationship — not just physical closeness, but emotional closeness as well. In a relationship, being close with someone involves trust, respect, understanding, acceptance and equality. Deciding when to make your relationship physical is a difficult decision — no matter how old you are.

Each person has their own comfort level when it comes to intimacy with another person. Even if you are very close with another person, you may not feel comfortable being physical with them. This is your decision — no one else’s.

When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to talk to your bf/gf about your sexual boundaries. You can start this conversation by telling your bf/gf about your feelings for him/her, followed by what you are comfortable with at this point of time in your relationship (for example, maybe you like holding hands, hugging and kissing but are not ready for any more touching). You don’t need to defend your decisions, but you can choose to explain why you want to wait for some things simply by saying you’re just not ready yet. Moving too quickly in a relationship when you aren’t ready can leave you with feelings of regret and can put a lot of pressure on the relationship. Remember people often will say that everyone else is doing something, when most people really aren’t. Don’t let peer pressure steer your decisions.

Always remember to trust your instincts and only do what you feel is right for you. Your friends and bf/gf should accept you and respect your choices no matter what. They shouldn’t pressure you to change your mind.

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Anonymous wrote:
May 10, 2011 4:55 pm

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Anonymous wrote:
December 14, 2011 3:13 pm

thanks for that
it really makes sense

mar mar wrote:
April 21, 2011 4:12 pm

its not the intimate stuff that really counts its the talking part that really counts you have 2 get along!!!!

Anonymous wrote:
November 19, 2010 9:39 am

helloooo, i make my own decisions

ymca wrote:
November 24, 2010 12:46 pm

that is true, but the site is just trying to help

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