Fights
Fights can be brutal. No matter who it is you’re fighting with — whether it be your friends, your parents, your bf/gf, your coach, your teacher, or whomever — fights can be hard on you mentally, physically, emotionally, and socially.
- Take the high road — don’t resort to mean-spirited or nasty attacks.
- Know that the fight will end at some point.
- Don’t make the fight public — that means not forwarding text messages to others outside of the fight or posting conversations online.
- You don’t need to ‘win’ — resolving the fight will never happen if you are determined to ‘win.’
- Ask yourself if the person you are fighting with is worth the effort.
- If they are your best friend or another relationship you value and don’t want to lose, then it may be worth it to try and resolve your differences.
- If you are fighting with someone you aren’t very close to, or someone who doesn’t play a major role in your life, it may be better to just stop participating in the argument and walk away.
- Ask the person you are fighting with if you can talk with them in private (this means not inviting the whole school).
- Ask the other person what exactly is bothering them.
- Listen quietly, do not interject with your own perspective, and allow the person to get everything off their chest. Even if you disagree with everything they say, and feel upset by what they are saying, it is important to allow the other person to speak.
- Focus on how the person is feeling and let them know you care about how they feel.
- Then ask them to listen quietly while you explain your side of the argument and how you feel. Share how you would like things to be different and what you’re willing to do to improve the situation.
- See if you can come to some sort of understanding as to what went wrong, how to become friends again, and how to deal with problems that arise in the future.
- If there is no way to resolve the problem, know that you did your best, and that even if the other person continues to try to fight with you, you do not have to participate. It may just take some time apart to help things blow over.
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When you non stop fighting with your friend doesnt mean their not your friends just take alil break from them and start hanging out with different people for awhile.. and then soon enough you guys will become friends again, but if not you guys should go for help, and everything will get better, ...... maybee?.
People that posts your text on facebook, or twitter, and get people to hate you,, well thats what my friend did to me, she got EVERYONE to hate me.. I wouldnt go that far with a fight,
i was walking down the rode and i seen my friend licking a ice cream and i asked for some but she was all liek no get away from me i hate u know i dont wanna be friends so i went home and cryed all nioght and stared to cut my wall all up and scream i lvoe my friend and she was the best thing that ever happend to me i dont know what went wrong
maybe she just needed her space.. "hate" is a strong word! so dont take it personaly! she was prob having a bad day :)
i dont think u should not be all stressed about it but u should talk to her mom or talk to her
look, ur friend might be going thru some hard times. approach her GENTLY and ask her wuts wrong
Wow, that would really hurt. It sounds like you were really upset. Sometimes friends can say things that are really hurtful. Have you told your friend how you felt when this happened? Sometimes friends need some space from each other to cool off. Has your friend ever done something like this before? Even in a healthy friendship, friends sometimes disagree or say things they do not mean, and then they make up. Making up is important after someone is hurt. It is difficult to repair the friendship if one person isn’t willing to make- up. It is important to feel good about yourself in a friendship. If you start feeling sad or hurt more often than you feel good, it might be time to take a break and spend some time with other friends who you feel better around.
Fighting with friends can be really upsetting and it is can be helpful to talk to an adult. Do you have a safe adult you can talk to when you are upset: at home or at school?
Me and my two friends were all cool at the beginning of the year. By October, my two friends always hung out and talked and they left me out. When I tried to make friendly conversation, they insulted me. So, one day I confronted them about it. I calmly told them "I don't like the way you've been treating me lately. You're leaving me out and I don't feel like were friends anymore." She completely freaked out and started yelling at me and insulting me.
It's March now, and we've been in a fight since November. She wants to be friends again, but I told her no. She mistreated me and I'm not going to put up with it. Reminds me a lot of the song 'Jar of Hearts' by Christina Perri.
i <3 that song, btw. maybe u should try again????
the same thing happended to me last year, they appoligized and we moved on in life, and after that nothing happend again , so i sugest you accept her appoligie.:)
sweet it happens to me too somthimes it sucks :(
it happens too me alot sometimes :(
i love that song
that is so sad
i luv that song to is makes me want to cry sometimes but i love it and i want to do that for the talent show
my friend and i sat side by side talking it out !
aw ever hawt;) jk im not a creep =D